Saturday, September 03, 2005
Finding that Perfect Person
Does that perfect person exist? You know, that someone who always says and does the right thing, acts just as we wish for them to… in essence the perfect Mr. or Miss. Right.
Some people think that such a person exists and they spend years with eyes wide open, searching. There are even television programs based on finding that “perfect person”.
How do I know?
OK, I admit it, one night while flipping through the channels I came across a program on dating. Long story, short…a young woman in need of dating help, sat for what seemed forever, sharing a huge laundry list of qualities she was looking for in her “Mr. Right”. With high hopes and unrealistic expectations, she turned to the “dating experts” to help her attract her “Mr. Right”.
Why did I find this program so amusing? Because it brought back memories of “the list” I created when I was younger – while my list was not nearly as long and exhausting, I had one.
I’ll be honest, with my mental list in hand I too tried to find my perfect “Mr. Right”. Looking back, I was young, impressionable, and very unrealistic. Years later, after experiencing a divorce and coming to terms with the reality that my expectations were so far out in left field, I made a break-thru in my thinking. Hey, let’s face it; I am far from perfect, so how could I possibly expect someone else to be?
Don’t get me wrong, I am really not as skeptical as I might sound. While I don’t believe that the perfect “Mr. Right” exists, I do believe that a “just right” person does. There is that someone (for everyone) who brings to a relationship many wonderful qualities, not to mention a few flaws -- that's what makes us all exciting and different.
Something to Consider
While we can draft requirement lists for our significant others or potentials, the bottom line is, we have to be fair to ourselves and to those wondrous people in our lives. There is not a person out there that is perfect and if we are trying to find a perfect person we may just overlook that very special person who is “just right” (and no, I am not promoting settling here). It is important to remember…
He may be funny and caring, but he snores. She may be nurturing and independent, but bites her nails. Weigh the positives of your “just right” person – I bet they outweigh the negatives.
Oh and by embracing the positives and potentials, I assure you, you will release some pressure and start to have a bit of fun...in your current relationship OR in the dating process. With that said, I will leave you with one last thought, one that was shared on that dating show…be sure not to ask for anything that you can’t or aren’t willing to offer yourself.
Think about it.
Until next time, be well…
Pam
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