Sunday, July 30, 2006
A Sandpiper For You
This beautiful story, powerful message, and note was sent to me by a friend. It serves as a great reminder of how important it is to stop and smell the roses. Now I share it with you with wishes that you have many "sandpipers" in your life.
The Sandpiper, by Robert Peterson She was six years old when I first met her on the beach near where I live. I drive to this beach, a distance of three or four miles, whenever the world begins to close in on me. She was building a sand castle or something and looked up, her eyes as blue as the sea.
"Hello," she said.
I answered with a nod, not really in the mood to bother with a small child.
"I'm building," she said.
"I see that. What is it?" I asked, not really caring.
"Oh, I don't know, I just like the feel of sand."
That sounds good, I thought, and slipped off my shoes.
A sandpiper glided by.
"That's a joy," the child said.
"It's a what?"
"It's a joy. My mama says sandpipers come to bring us joy."
The bird went gliding down the beach. Good-bye joy, I muttered to myself, hello pain, and turned to walk on. I was depressed, my life seemed completely out of balance.
"What's your name?" She wouldn't give up.
"Robert," I answered. "I'm Robert Peterson."
"Mine's Wendy... I'm six."
"Hi, Wendy."
She giggled. "You're funny," she said.
In spite of my gloom, I laughed too and walked on. Her musical giggle followed me.
"Come again, Mr. P," she called. "We'll have another happy day."
The next few days consisted of a group of unruly Boy Scouts, PTA meetings, and an ailing mother. The sun was shining one morning as I took my hands out of the dishwater. I need a sandpiper, I said to myself, gathering up my coat.
The ever-changing balm of the seashore awaited me. The breeze was chilly but I strode along, trying to recapture the serenity I needed.
"Hello, Mr. P," she said. "Do you want to play?"
"What did you have in mind?" I asked, with a twinge of annoyance.
"I don't know. You say."
"How about charades?" I asked sarcastically.
The tinkling laughter burst forth again. "I don't know what that is."
"Then let's just walk."
Looking at her, I noticed the delicate fairness of her face. "Where do you live?" I asked.
"Over there." She pointed toward a row of summer cottages.
Strange, I thought, in winter.
"Where do you go to school?"
"I don't go to school. Mommy says we're on vacation."
She chattered little girl talk as we strolled up the beach, but my mind was on other things. When I left for home, Wendy said it had been a happy day.
Feeling surprisingly better, I smiled at her and agreed.
Three weeks later, I rushed to my beach in a state of near panic. I was in no mood to even greet Wendy. I thought I saw her mother on the porch and felt like demanding she keep her child at home.
"Look, if you don't mind," I said crossly when Wendy caught up with me, "I'd rather be alone today." She seemed unusually pale and out of breath.
"Why?" she asked.
I turned to her and shouted, "Because my mother died!" and thought, My God, why was I saying this to a little child?
"Oh," she said quietly, "then this is a bad day."
"Yes," I said, "and yesterday and the day before and -- oh, go away!"
"Did it hurt?" she inquired.
"Did what hurt?" I was exasperated with her, with myself.
"When she died?"
"Of course it hurt!" I snapped, misunderstanding, wrapped up in myself. I strode off.
A month or so after that, when I next went to the beach, she wasn't there. Feeling guilty, ashamed, and admitting to myself I missed her, I went up to the cottage after my walk and knocked at the door. A drawn looking young woman with honey-colored hair opened the door.
"Hello," I said, "I'm Robert Peterson. I missed your little girl today and wondered where she was."
"Oh yes, Mr. Peterson, please come in. Wendy spoke of you so much. I'm afraid I allowed her to bother you. If she was a nuisance, please, accept my apologies."
"Not at all -- she's a delightful child." I said, suddenly realizing that I meant what I had just said.
"Wendy died last week, Mr. Peterson. She had leukemia. Maybe she didn't tell you."
Struck dumb, I groped for a chair. I had to catch my breath.
"She loved this beach, so when she asked to come, we couldn't say no. She seemed so much better here and had a lot of what she called happy days.
But the last few weeks, she declined rapidly..." Her voice faltered, "She left something for you, if only I can find it. Could you wait a moment while I look?"
I nodded stupidly, my mind racing for something to say to this lovely young woman. She handed me a smeared envelope with "MR. P" printed in bold childish letters. Inside was a drawing in bright crayon hues – a yellow beach, a blue sea, and a brown bird. Underneath was carefully printed:
A SANDPIPER TO BRING YOU JOY.
Tears welled up in my eyes, and a heart that had almost forgotten to love opened wide. I took Wendy's mother in my arms. "I'm so sorry, I'm so sorry, I'm so sorry," I uttered over and over, and we wept together. The precious little picture is framed now and hangs in my study. Six words -- one for each year of her life -- that speak to me of harmony, courage, and undemanding love.
A gift from a child with sea blue eyes and hair the color of sand-- who taught me the gift of love.
NOTE: This is a true story sent out by Robert Peterson. It happened over 20 years ago and the incident changed his life forever. It serves as a reminder to all of us that we need to take time to enjoy living and life and each other. The price of hating other human beings is loving oneself less.
Life is so complicated, the hustle and bustle of everyday traumas can make us lose focus about what is truly important or what is only a momentary setback or crisis.
This week, be sure to give your loved ones an extra hug, and by all means, take a moment... even if it is only ten seconds, to stop and smell the roses.
This comes from someone's heart, and is read by many and now I share it with you...
May everyone who reads this be blessed! There are NO coincidences!
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Sunday, July 23, 2006
Attitude Adjustment
Be in an attitude of gratitude. - Lee Brower , courtesy of The Secret
As you may recall from last week’s entry I suggested that you share at least three things you are grateful for to help raise your energy level. Well, I have an admission to make…
For quite some time now I have been practicing a gratitude exercise where every morning (before my feet hit the floor) and every night (before drifting off to sleep) I share five things I am grateful for. (This is not the admission, however. <grin>
This past Thursday I did not participate in my gratitude exercise. Instead I dashed out of bed and jumped straight into my day. Sadly, things that could go wrong did go wrong from the very start. To put it bluntly…my day sucked!! What’s even worse, two really great things happened in my day and I completely dismissed them…just cast them aside.
I have to tell you, I have not had a day like that in a VERY long time.
What my experience impressed upon me is how important it really is to “be in attitude of gratitude”. When we come from a place of gratitude we are open and receptive to the positives. We just go with the flow… where even the bumps that appear in our paths are manageable.
I invite you to give it a whirl yourself! For the next month practice having an “attitude of gratitude”...you can say or write what you are grateful for...whatever works best for you.
Have fun and as always please feel free to share your questions and comments right here. :)
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Sunday, July 16, 2006
Turning Up the Energy
In last week’s entry What Does Your Energy Say About You I mentioned that I would be sharing some tips for raising your energy level and keeping it raised. As promised here are just a few suggestions that will help!
Whenever you feel your energy level waning or becoming a bit dark and gloomy…
As always, if something has worked for you in raising your energy level, please do share it here!! Your thoughts are always welcome!!
Have an amazing, positive energy-filled week!
Pam
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Sunday, July 09, 2006
What Does Your Energy Say About You?
Have you ever walked into a room and got a sense about a person just from their presence? You didn’t know the person, but you got a feeling one way or the other about them. It was that feeling that may have either drawn you to them or told you to stay away.
Think about it. I bet there have been times when you could tell whether someone was happy or in a bad mood without even talking to them.
Why? It’s simple really. It is all due to the energy or (as physicists would say) the vibrations we emit.
Here is a little challenge for you…pay close attention to your energy level for the next week and also what transpires. For example, if you are in a good mood and joyfully going through your day, take stock of the things that appear. Do you receive more compliments from others? Was your day awesome?
Come back next week and I will share some ways to raise your energy level and keep it raised. Until then, please take good care and have great week!
Be well…
Pam
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Sunday, July 02, 2006
You Define It!
I define joy as a sustained sense of well-being and internal peace - a connection to what matters. - Oprah Winfrey
To me the definition of joy is a multi-faceted one which includes both internal and external experiences. For example, spending time with my son being silly brings me great joy (external). Feeling positive and at peace also brings me joy (internal). So in essence, one of my many definitions of joy is the ability to see and choose to experience the good and to be my authentic self.
How do you define joy?
I invite you to think of all the things, both internal and external, that provide you with joy. Capitalize on those things and enjoy living in joy!
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Monday, June 26, 2006
Self Love
You deserve to be happy, you deserve to be joyful, you deserve to be celebrative, but, in order to do that you must first fall madly in love with yourself. - Lisa Nichols, courtesy of The Secret
I love this empowering quote because it captures what is really important…loving yourself. There is no one on this earth like you!! You are unique; you possess special traits, wonderful qualities, and amazing skills like no other.
My wish for you is to see the beauty that you possess, to embrace the amazing assets you have rather than focusing on the negative. For example, if you feel your arms are too small or too flabby, instead of focusing on the negatives, what would it feel like if you were to say to yourself, “These wonderful arms provide me with the ability to _______.” (hug my children, do my wonderful work, get dressed with ease)?
Please know that this has nothing to do with being conceited or boastful. This has everything to do with you creating good feelings about you for you! Don’t delay; a beautiful love affair with a fabulous person is yours for the taking. Give it a go and see what happens.
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Sunday, June 18, 2006
Happy Birthday…err…Anniversary!
Today marks the one year anniversary of Make the Most of U! This past year has been an amazing journey and I have truly enjoyed sharing and engaging with the readers of this blog. Thank you…
…to everyone who has read and contributed their time and thoughts. It is that time and those thoughts that have inspired me.
…to my amazing
…to my family and friends for their support, love, and encouragement.
…to my own coach,
Amy for her infinite wisdom.I value and appreciate you all!
Here is to another great year at Make the Most of U! Please keep sharing and keep making a difference.
In love and gratitude…
Pam
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Sunday, June 11, 2006
This + That = Moving Forward/Success
You know sometimes it’s really pretty cool when a powerful lesson you learned at some point in your life resurfaces. Those types of reoccurrences often remind us of the amazing tools we have in our toolboxes…tools that may have shifted to the bottom, but are still there just waiting to be used.
To explain…
Early on in my coach training at Coach U I learned a great technique called Success Formulas*. In short, Success Formulas* are simple, easy to remember equations for helping a client achieve a goal.
This wonderful little technique reappeared at just the perfect time, at a time when I was contemplating forward movement for some of the intentions I had set. As I was revisiting my intentions all the sudden I remembered a simple equation I created many moons ago…
Now when I look at my list of intentions, I don’t just see the intentions, but I start to see potential actions I can take to achieve results.
Does it sound simple? It is, because the wonderful thing about equations is there is no right or wrong, there are no set factors, pieces, variables or parts. These equations contain whatever you wish for them to…anything that resonates and helps you achieve whatever you want.
Now it’s your turn. Think of something that you really wish to gain or achieve. With the outcome in mind, come up with some factors or variables for your equation in order to create that outcome.
Until next time, be well and have fun creating your own Success Formula*….
Pam
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Sunday, June 04, 2006
Seizing the Moment
In December I wrote a blog entry called “Smelling the Roses”. The entry is essentially about not letting life and the important things pass you by.
I was reminded of this entry this past week when I received the sad news that a friend, valued colleague, and coaching buddy passed away from cancer. I recalled our last coaching call in January where he told me he was taking a break from coaching to pursue other career options. I could hear his disappointment because he was really excited about coaching. While we decided to stop coaching one another, we did say we would keep in touch.
Long, story short, we did not stay in touch and I could not be more saddened by that. I am now once again reminded of how important it is to stop what you are doing, even if just for a moment, and take time to…
…reach out to friends and family to let them know you are thinking of them.
…be grateful for the people and wonderful things we have.
…say “thank you” to those that have touched your life.
My wish for you is to seize the moment and not wait…let someone who has made a difference in your life know just how grateful you are.
And to my friend and coaching buddy, while I did not have chance to say this to him in person, I wish to share this now…
My friend, thank you for being there to render advice, offer great suggestions, and lend support when I was feeling a bit unsure of my own abilities. Thank you for touching my life and the lives of others…for making a difference and for this valuable reminder to seize the moment. Thank you for being you. You will be missed.
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Sunday, May 28, 2006
Ollie Ollie Oxen Free
What does hiding get you?
We all do it or have done it in our life times. We hide or have hidden behind fears, old wounds, our past, false expectations (our own and others), perceptions…and why? Because hiding behind some thing that may be uncomfortable actually feels safe and familiar.
As a child did you ever play “Hide-And-Seek”? If you did then you probably remember picking a hiding space that was rather concealed from others. That was the whole point to be concealed and hard to find.
Well, when we hide from challenges, from our dreams, from potential risks (the good ones, that is), that is what we are doing, we are concealing ourselves…not only from others, but from life, and our authentic selves. Life is passing us by and opportunities are floating adrift.
So let me ask you again, what does hiding get you? Do you have more to lose or to gain by not hiding? My wish for you is to think about those questions, to think long and hard about them.
Yes, putting yourself out there may feel risky and even scary, but in doing so you become available to potentials. Potentials to gain what you want, to learn, to grow… potentials that would not have presented themselves because you were hiding and they could not find you
Ollie ollie oxen free…you can come out now. Take the chance, step out from that hiding place, take that challenge, because YOU have more to gain by no longer hiding than you do to lose.
Until next time, please be well…
Pam
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Sunday, May 21, 2006
In the Moment
When we are capable of living in the moment free from the tyranny of "shoulds," free from the nagging sensation that this moment isn't right, we will have peaceful hearts. - Joan Borysenko
I love this quote – it serves as a wonderful reminder that what we have is right now. We cannot do anything about the past (with the exception of learn from it) as it has already happened. We cannot do anything about the future because it has yet to come. We can do something about this present moment.
Worrying about tomorrow and what has yet to happen only takes away from focusing on the here and now and the wonderful opportunities that are presenting themselves.
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Saturday, May 13, 2006
Perfection – What's It Costing You?
Several months ago I wrote a blog entry entitled “I Love You, You’re Perfect, Now Change”. That entry spoke to the issue of being asked to be something other than who you are. However, today’s entry is more about the perceived notion of being perfect.
This is a topic that is near and dear to my heart because some where along the way I got the message to be perfect. The perfect person who did not make mistakes, who was the perfect weight, who wore the perfect clothes… I think you get the idea.
How did that message to be perfect serve me? How does it serve me now when it rears its head from time-to-time?
Not very well! Personally, it’s no fun dealing with the pressure, pressure that hangs heavy like a weight around my ankle. It’s an energy drain and emotionally stifling.
If this all sounds too familiar, then please continue to read on…
1) There is no such thing as perfect and striving for perfection is a never ending circle. How does being dizzy sound?
2) The quest for perfection creates pressure which distracts you from those things that are productive and will serve you better.
3) Needing to be perfect lands you a one-way ticket to Comparison-ville. In comparing yourself to others and what others have, you negate and miss out on all the wonderful things that you have, all the amazing attributes you possess.
4) Trying to achieve perfection is like walking through life with a bag over your head. You miss out on some fantastic growth and learning opportunities.
My wish for you is that you give yourself permission to not be perfect. Give yourself permission to be human, with warts and all. It is the warts and all that makes you the special person that you are.
In closing, I wish to share some really awesome quotes which I hope will empower you and provide some good food for thought.
The thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself. - Anna Quindlen
Aim for success, not perfection. Never give up your right to be wrong, because then you will lose the ability to learn new things and move forward with your life. - Dr. David M. Burns
Assert your right to make a few mistakes. If people can't accept your imperfections, that's their fault. - Dr. David M. Burns
Perfectionism is simply putting a limit on your future. When you have an idea of perfect in your mind, you open the door to constantly comparing what you have now with what you want. That type of self criticism is significantly deterring. -John Eliot, Ph.D., Reverse Psychology for Success
As always, I welcome your thoughts and comments.
Please be well…
Pam
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Saturday, May 06, 2006
Lasting Impressions
This beautiful story was sent to me and I warn you it is a bit long, but well worth the read. It serves as a wonderful reminder of how WE all can and do make a lasting impression.
The Old Telephone
When I was quite young, my father had one of the first telephones in our neighborhood. I remember the polished, old case fastened to the wall. The shiny receiver hung on the side of the box. I was too little to reach the telephone, but used to listen with fascination when my mother talked into it.
Then I discovered that somewhere inside the wonderful device lived an amazing person. Her name was "Information Please" and there was nothing she did not know. Information Please could supply anyone's number and the correct time.
My personal experience with the genie-in-a-box came one day while my mother was visiting a neighbor. Amusing myself at the tool bench in the basement, I whacked my finger with a hammer, the pain was terrible, but there seemed no point in crying because there was no one home to give sympathy.
I walked around the house sucking my throbbing finger, finally arriving at the stairway. The telephone! Quickly, I ran for the footstool in the parlor and dragged it to the landing. Climbing up, I unhooked the receiver in the parlor and held it to my ear. "Information, please" I said into the mouthpiece just above my head.
A click or two and a small clear voice spoke into my ear.
"Information."
"I hurt my finger..." I wailed into the phone, the tears came readily enough now that I had an audience.
"Isn't your mother home?" came the question.
"Nobody's home but me," I blubbered.
"Are you bleeding?" the voice asked.
"No," I replied. "I hit my finger with the hammer and it hurts."
"Can you open the icebox?" she asked.
I said I could.
"Then chip off a little bit of ice and hold it to your finger," said the voice.
After that, I called "Information Please" for everything. I asked her for help with my geography, and she told me where Philadelphia was. She helped me with my math. She told me my pet chipmunk that I had caught in the park just the day before, would eat fruit and nuts.
Then, there was the time Petey, our pet canary, died. I called, Information Please," and told her the sad story. She listened, and then said things grown-ups say to soothe a child. But I was not consoled. I asked her, "Why is it that birds should sing so beautifully and bring joy to all families, only to end up as a heap of feathers on the bottom of a cage?"
She must have sensed my deep concern, for she said quietly, "Paul - always remember that there are other worlds to sing in."
Somehow I felt better.
Another day I was on the telephone, "Information Please." "Information," said in the now familiar voice. "How do I spell fix?" I asked.
All this took place in a small town in the Pacific Northwest. When I was nine years old, we moved across the country to Boston. I missed my friend very much. "Information Please" belonged in that old wooden box back home and I somehow never thought of trying the shiny new phone that sat on the table in the hall. As I grew into my teens, the memories of those childhood conversations never really left me.
Often, in moments of doubt and perplexity I would recall the serene sense of security I had then. I appreciated now how patient, understanding, and kind she was to have spent her time on a little boy.
A few years later, on my way west to college, my plane put down in Seattle. I had about a half-hour or so between planes. I spent 15 minutes or so on the phone with my sister, who lived there now. Then without thinking what I was doing, I dialed my hometown operator and said "Information Please."
Miraculously, I heard the small, clear voice I knew so well.
"Information."
I hadn't planned this, but I heard myself saying, "Could you please tell me how to spell fix?"
There was a long pause. Then came the soft spoken answer, "I guess your finger must have healed by now."
I laughed, "So it's really you," I said. "I wonder if you have any idea how much you meant to me during that time?"
"I wonder," she said, "if you know how much your call meant to me. I never had any children and I used to look forward to your calls."
I told her how often I had thought of her over the years and I asked if I could call her again when I came back to visit my sister.
"Please do", she said. "Just ask for Sally."
Three months later I was back in Seattle. A different voice answered.
"Information." I asked for Sally.
"Are you a friend?" she said.
"Yes, a very old friend," I answered.
"I'm sorry to have to tell you this," she said. "Sally had been working part-time the last few years because she was sick. She died five weeks ago."
Before I could hang up she said, "Wait a minute, did you say your name was Paul?" "Yes." I answered.
"Well, Sally left a message for you. She wrote it down in case you called. Let me read it to you." The note said, "Tell him there are other worlds to sing in. He'll know what I mean."
I thanked her and hung up. I knew what Sally meant.
Never underestimate the impression you may make on others.
What is the impression you make or wish to make?
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Saturday, April 29, 2006
What Are You Attracting?
We don’t attract what we want, we attract what we are. - Author Unknown
I have been thinking a lot about that quote which hangs on the white board in my office. It was passed along to me by my own coach. To me, it is a very powerful reminder of how important it is to be the best person possible …To be genuine, honest, in integrity, loving, caring, and generous.
What are you attracting? Are you attracting and manifesting the things that you really want in your life?
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Saturday, April 15, 2006
Living Your Greatest Life
It has always been my passion and purpose to support others in finding direction, getting unstuck, removing obstacles…basically collaborating to create a life road map that leads to better living and a more balanced life.
I do not like to see people in pain or going in circles; that is one of the reasons this blog was created… to help as many people as possible gain the answers from within in order to move forward, creating their greatest life ever!!
Now I need your help! I need your help in gaining a greater insight into where people are and what they need in their lives in order for it to be the very best it can be. To accomplish that I would like to invite you to participate in a short survey. As a “thank you” for your time and your input I will be placing the first 100 people who respond into a drawing for four complimentary coaching sessions.
The winner of the drawing will be contacted May 1st via e-mail.
Thank you for making a difference!!
IMPORTANT DISCLAIMER: By participating, rest assured that your first name and e-mail address will NOT be sold or shared with anyone!!
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Saturday, April 08, 2006
What Do You Do?
Have you ever been in a situation where someone asked you what you did and you were at a loss for words? OR Have you ever shared what you do, but shared it in small voice, as if you were afraid to share? (Not because you hate what you do, but because you don’t feel confident about conveying it to others.)
This is a topic that is near and dear to my heart …not only because I have struggled with it myself, but also because this very topic came up recently in a marketing and practice building teleclass I have been teaching.
During class, as we were going around the group sharing what we do, I noticed that many of the participants would share with an apologetic tone…as if they were sorry for the amazing things they do. How they were sharing was not unusual, but rather common. It happens when you are not sure how to describe what you do in a way that is compelling and understandable.
So how do you eliminate the apologetic tone? How do you find the right words to say? How do you share with confidence?
Here are just a few suggestions…
1) We have all heard of an elevator speech, that 10-20 second blurb that people use when describing what they do…well, I encourage you to develop a passion statement instead.
A passion statement is a statement that comes from the heart. When you speak from your heart, not only do you come from a genuine place, but you also share with a level of enthusiasm that is hard to ignore.
2) Get really clear on what you do, why you do it, how you do it, and why what you do is important. (What needs and concerns do you address by doing what you do?)
3) Practice sharing your passion statement with others and ask them what they heard. Gaining feedback is important! The feedback will help you to gauge your level of energy when sharing and the clarity of your message.
4) Develop a fun one-liner. (This great tip comes from the book, Getting Business to Come to You
5) Have fun and play with your words and remember you do not have to memorize a little schpeel. With a foundation (your passion statement) what you say can and does change depending on circumstance, but the message will always be consistent.
If you have any questions or need some assistance, please do not hesitate to get in touch.
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Saturday, April 01, 2006
What Are You Tolerating?
Imagine having more energy or more time to focus on the things you really want. Imagine being able to move forward in your life without some of your current stress. Doesn’t that sound good?
We all have things in our life that we just put up with or tolerate, for example, a cluttered desk, a messy closet, a squeaky door, a sloppy significant other or child, even STRESS. While the tolerations may not seem to be a big deal on the surface…don’t be fooled, they are!
Tolerations drain us of valuable energy. They prevent us from moving forward. They are a distraction and they waste time, time that could be spent on something proactive and productive.
What are you tolerating and how are those tolerations serving you?
There is no better time then the present to become free of draining tolerations!! Here is an exercise that will help you get a handle on those things that are draining you...
1) Make a list of all the things you feel you are currently tolerating.
2) Once you have your list in hand, go over it and look for the pivotal tolerations. A pivotal toleration, when removed, removes other tolerations with it.
3) Look at what is causing your tolerations and be sure to remove the cause or the root of the toleration. (A toleration is like a weed, if you do not remove the root, the toleration will just return.)
4) If your toleration list feels overwhelming, again first look for all the pivotal tolerations, transferring three or four to a new list. Breaking your list down into bite-sized pieces will help it become more manageable and less overwhelming.
I would also like to offer you a bit of personal support. If you are not sure where to start in pinpointing your tolerations or you need support in developing an action plan to remove your tolerations, please e-mail me. I will be more than happy to provide you with a free 30 minute coaching session to help identify and take action against those tolerations that are draining you.
Energy-filled living here we come!
Until next time, be well …
Pam
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Saturday, March 25, 2006
Judging a Book by Its Cover
(Warning: This is just my opinion regarding a topic that is important to me so I apologize in advance for the little soap box rant. Please feel free to share your own opinions and thoughts.)
Whether you are male or female, wealthy or just making ends meet, black or white, overweight or underweight, short or tall...someone in a crowd, at a party, in your office has probably already developed an opinion about you without really getting to know you. If you have NEVER had that misfortune then you are lucky!
I think some of the most powerful words that I have ever heard were spoken by Dr. Martin Luther King; "I have a dream that my four children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin but by the content of their character."
Sadly, we are no where near that day and sadly people’s prejudices, perceptions and even sometimes ignorance stand in the way of us being a kinder, gentler world -- one where a man or woman is truly seen and embraced for their character (the person they are) and not because of the $250 pair of shoes that they wear or don’t wear.
I am a firm believer that people are not born with a prejudicial eye. This is something that is taught (even inadvertently) or gained through the influence of others. If everyone, everywhere made a deliberate effort not to pre-judge a person based on appearance, but rather took the time to get to know someone…what a more loving, productive, and open-minded world this would be.
What do you think?
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Sunday, March 19, 2006
Can YOU Come Out and Play?
When was the last time you caught a snowflake on your tongue or let snowflakes coat your eyelashes? Sound like fun?
It is!
Last weekend I was up at my favorite coffee house when it began to snow and snow hard. It was an amazing and welcomed event...until last weekend we had not seen any sign of moisture for 143 days and where I live in Arizona, snow is rare.
Not only was the snow a beautiful sight to see, but what was even more beautiful was watching 30 adults (myself included) darting in and out of the snow…catching snowflakes on our tongues and on our eyelashes, giggling and laughing like little children. The result was energizing and uplifting!!
It was then that I was reminded of how important it is to stay in touch with our child sides. (You know the part of each if us that loves to do silly things and enjoys being playful.) We all have the capability to be child-like and it is more than OK to embrace that side of yourself, letting it come out and play. Heck, it is what keeps us young and helps us to recharge our batteries.
So, can you come out and play?
I challenge you to…
have a snowball fight or make a snow angel (if you have snow)…
turn some cartwheels…
sit on the floor and play jacks…
skip down the sidewalk…
jump rope…
sing and dance in the middle of your living room…
spin in circles until you get dizzy
Whatever you choose to do, have fun, re-energize, because you deserve it!! Oh, and one more thing, try and make a play date with yourself on a regular basis. I promise you, you will be glad you did.
Until next time, be well and have fun…
Pam
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Saturday, March 11, 2006
Sexual Harassment is Never OK
I wanted to share a link that a Make the Most of U subscriber sent to me (thank you, Susan!). While I know the worthwhile event this project was holding has come and gone, the problem still exists and support is needed.
Sexual harassment is never OK, prank or not! Help take a stand and raise awareness because sexual harassment is a global issue.
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