Monday, May 26, 2008
What worth has beauty if it is not seen? - Italian Proverb
There is not one person on this planet who does not possess a great beauty. I truly believe that in my heart. We all have the capacity to share and show our beauty; sometimes we choose to hide it away. Sometimes we mask it in fear that our beauty is not good enough or as wonderful as someone elses.
When we compare ourselves to others, when we self deprecate, when we don’t share our true amazing selves, we are depreciating our own beauty, devaluing its worth and our own. We are depriving ourselves of the chance to share something really incredible with the world and in turn we are depriving ourselves of opportunities for growth and potentials.
My friends, it does not matter if you are bone thin, over weight, have a small nose or a big nose, hips that are too small or too big, you are beautiful. You possess a beauty that no one else does and that makes you incredible and unique.
I encourage you to come out from hiding, to stop the self deprecation, to cease the comparisons. When you feel the urge to do any of the things mentioned, please stop yourself and please find one positive thing about YOU that you can share with the world in that very moment. Maybe you have a killer smile, so stop and smile at someone. Maybe you give incredible hugs, so stop and hug someone. Embrace your beauty, you may be utterly surprised at what happens when you do.
Monday, May 19, 2008
You know what they say, laughter is often the best medicine. If you are experiencing some Monday blues, have a gander at this...
SIDE EFFECT WARNING: Severe laughter may cause side aches.
Monday, May 12, 2008
In the United States July is the month to celebrate independence. While folks may be celebrating a country's independence, I would like to mark July as the start to breaking free from the following:
The feeling of being stuck
Lack of passion and purpose
...to name just a few things that hold us back and keep us from reaching our fullest potential; living a life that we desire and deserve.
It is my wish that each one of you experiences the freedom to be who you truly are so you can have what you really want. It is my desire and goal to support you in doing just that, being the real you and doing and having things that are in integrity with who you truly are.
Please join me starting July 10, 2008 for a four month intensive based upon the e-workbooks Will the Real YOU Please Step Forward. I am opening up this group coaching program to ONLY 10 people so if you are interested in:
1) Knowing what makes you tick
2) Attracting what you really want in your life
3) Letting go of any fears that are keeping you from living your life to the fullest
4) Eradicating any tolerations that are weighing you down
5) Finding your passion and purpose; claiming it once and for all
6) Gaining the power to be who you want to be, do what you want to do and have what you want to have
7) Learning how to create sticky intentions
contact me to set up your introductory interview call. Here is to creating individual independence by getting to the core of who you truly are!
Please contact me to set up a brief interview. Participants will receive the following:
- Two, one hour group coaching sessions per month via phone
- One, 45 minute individual coaching session per month via phone
- A monthly buddy call with another participant in the program
- The e-workbook series Will the Real YOU Please Step Forward
- Access to a private online area where you can interact with other group participants in between calls
Some benefits for participating...
*Group support and encouragement
*Connection with liked-minded people.
*Safe, confidential space to share and grow
*When you strengthen your inner self, stress and tolerations are dramatically reduced
*Changes from the inside out
*More peace and balance
*Awareness and clarity around who you are and what you want
The program schedule is as follows:
July 10th: First Group Coaching Call @ 9pm ET, 8pm CT, 7pm MT, 6pm PT
July 17th: Second Group Coaching Call @ 9pm ET, 8pm CT, 7pm MT, 6pm PT
Week of July 21st: Individual Coaching Call (scheduled individually)
Week of July 28th: Buddy calls
August 7th: First Group Coaching Call @ 9pm ET, 8pm CT, 7pm MT, 6pm PT
August 14th: Second Group Coaching Call @ 9pm ET, 8pm CT, 7pm MT, 6pm PT
Week of August 18th: Individual Coaching Call (scheduled individually)
Week of August 25th: Buddy calls
September 4th: First Group Coaching Call @ 9pm ET, 8pm CT, 7pm MT, 6pm PT
September 11th: Second Group Coaching Call @ 9pm ET, 8pm CT, 7pm MT, 6pm PT
Week of September 15th: Individual Coaching Call (scheduled individually)
Week of September 22nd: Buddy calls
October 2nd: First Group Coaching Call @ 9pm ET, 8pm CT, 7pm MT, 6pm PT
October 9th: Second Group Coaching Call @ 9pm ET, 8pm CT, 7pm MT, 6pm PT
Week of October 13th: Individual Coaching Call (scheduled individually)
Week of October 20th: Buddy calls
The regular cost for this program is $660 USD ($165 per month), however, I wish to offer this entire program to 10 people for $165 USD ( which is the equivalent of three free months of group and individual coaching.) In addition, if you sign up by June 20th, you will receive 20% off the $165.
Space is limited so
Sunday, May 11, 2008
(Many thanks to my sister, Wendy for sending the following to me, which I believe was written by David J Pollay. Some awesome food for thought.)
One day I hopped in a taxi and we took off for the airport. We were driving in the right lane when suddenly a black car jumped out of a parking space right in front of us. My taxi driver slammed on his brakes, skidded, and missed the other car by just inches! The driver of the other car whipped his head around and started yelling at us. My taxi driver just smiled and waved at the guy. And I mean, he was really friendly.
So I asked, 'Why did you just do that? This guy almost ruined your car and sent us to the hospital!' This is when my taxi driver taught me what I now call, 'The Law of the Garbage Truck.'
He explained that many people are like garbage trucks. They run around full of garbage, full of frustration, full of anger, and full of disappointment. As their garbage piles up, they need a place to dump it and sometimes they'll dump it on you. Don't take it personally. Just smile, wave, wish them well, and move on. Don't take their garbage and spread it to other people at work, at home, or on the streets.
The bottom line is that successful people do not let garbage trucks take over their day. Life's too short to wake up in the morning with regrets, so..... 'Love the people who treat you right. Pray for the ones who don't.'
Attitude and holding on to our power are wonderful things, aren't they?
Sunday, May 04, 2008
Dear Blog Readers,
I wish to thank you for visiting and reading Make the Most of U. I am extremely grateful for the visits, comments, and contributions. Next month will be Make the Most of U's third birthday so its time to shake things up a bit! In order to do that, I would like the chance to get to know YOU a bit better; I want to know what makes you tick, what your heart says to you, what your values are, and what's most important to you!
First, because I truly do care about what you think and who you are. Second, I want to continue to provide content that resonants with who, what you are experiencing, and what you are wishing to create for yourselves. So with that, the Go Big or Go Home Question is....
If I was your fairygod coach and with a wave of my magic wand could grant your heart's desire, what three wishes would you make and why?
I look forward to your responses. Here's to you and to making the most of you and who you are!
Monday, April 21, 2008
While most may have one Achilles Heel, I seem to have two.
Does having two make me any more special than anyone else? Certainly not! Does it make me more deserving of praise and accolades? “Oh, check Pam out, she has not one, but two Achilles Heels. Isn't she cool?” Nope! Don't think so.
So what does it make me? Human! It makes me human.
And while I have two, there is one in particular that bothers me most; it's dried, cracked, sometimes hurts, itches like hell, and thus far has evaded “remedy”.
My major Achilles Heel is the fear of losing the things that are most important to me.
So when I am feeling the fear of loss in the form of negative thoughts, I try and replace those thoughts with more positive ones. While that often provides temporary relief, temporary is no longer good enough! A long-term cure is what I'm after.
In searching for that cure I asked the following question (err..questions) “Why do I fear loss and what can I do to remove it?”
The remedy/answer did not come right away. As a matter of fact, it waited a day and came during a coaching session with a client. The answer was, “We have a tendency to hang on for dear life to things that are most important. In hanging on in a white-knuckled fashion, we cloud the good aspects of those things and minimize our ability to enjoy them. Have faith; faith in yourself and faith that all that is important will remain as long as you believe in those things. Be grateful for them, be present, and trust.”
Now it's your turn, dear readers and fellow bloggers, what's your Achilles Heel(s)? What are you willing to do to ease the cracking and itch?
Sunday, April 13, 2008
"I don't live in a soap opera so I don't choose to be a part of one."
I am not going to spoil this wonderful quote from my 13 year old son with a huge explanation. I will just say, wise words to ponder, dontcha think?
Sunday, April 06, 2008
I just realized that I have not asked a “Go Big or Go Home Question” in some time so here is a doozy for you; one that I am actually exploring myself. Beware, it's a two parter.
Who or what do I need to be to create a peaceful and grounded life? What am I willing to do to achieve peace and become more grounded and peaceful?
(Oh, and since I never ask a question, that I am not willing to answer myself, feel free to hop on over to Walking My Own Walk.)
Sunday, March 30, 2008
The hardest thing often to relinquish is being in the driver’s seat (in control). Let’s face it, it’s difficult not to have control, especially over events or even people (yep, people) who are important to us. Why? Because we have to be reliant on something or someone else to help create the desired outcome we are after…to help get us to where we want to go.
Two weeks ago I shared with all of you how I became vulnerable by putting my deep personal feelings out there. This was a wonderful and tough thing to do; it was wonderful to let the other person know just how much I love and care for him, but at the same time it was difficult to get out of the driver’s seat and into the passenger seat. (To this day, I still have to practice letting go of the outcome.)
You see, the only things I had control over in this situation were my own feelings and how I chose to share them. I did not have control over how my feelings would be received and the response I would ultimately get. Now, it is a matter of being the best person I can be to myself and this person, letting go of the outcome, and having faith (all things I have control over) that what is meant to be, will.
I’ll admit, it’s tough to let go of the wheel and at the same time it is so easy to fall prey to trying to force or push things along. Yep, been there, done that; trying to force the outcome produced results far from what I really wanted. In the long run it wasn’t worth it.
So what’s a person to do?
First things first, it helps to distinguish what you truly have control over in the current situation. If it helps, ask yourself the following questions, “What do I have control over?” and “What don’t I have control over?” Getting clear and creating awareness around when you are in the driver’s seat and when you are in the passenger’s seat is half the battle.
Of the things you have control over make a commitment to execute them in a constructive fashion; meaning knowing when to put on the gas and knowing when to ease off a bit and just coast. Remember, it’s a fine balance; gunning the gas pedal is not always the best option. Sometimes you have to drive as if you are “Driving Miss Daisy”, slowly, steadily, and reliably.
Now it’s your turn. When was the last time you forced your way into the driver’s seat? What happened? What happened the last time you sat back, were completely present, and enjoyed the ride?
(Image courtesy of www.pedalcar.com)
Sunday, March 16, 2008
In my very humble opinion vulnerability gets a bad rap. By its own definition it is in and of itself vulnerable to negative connotations. It’s often equated to being REALLY exposed and susceptible to major hurt. While that is true, there is a positive flip-side to being vulnerable.
I think I am hearing a collective, “What? What could possibly be the positive flip-side to being vulnerable?”
OK guys, this is just my opinion and based on my own personal experience; being vulnerable is being human. It is sharing my truest feelings, the ones that come from heart. It is sharing ME fully, the good and not so good. It is an opportunity for growth, deeper relationships, and realness. It is NOT in any way a means to becoming a doormat. No way! I get to choose when, where, and the people I am vulnerable with. Let me give you an example…
Just recently I shared some very deep, personal feelings with a VERY special person. I was real, I was open, and I was vulnerable as hell. (Not to mention scared to bits.) Yes, I was exposed and susceptible to hurt, but that was the chance I CHOSE to take. Why? Because I knew that if I was not willing to be a bit vulnerable and willing to put myself out there I would NEVER know the potential possibilities available. All I would know was the feelings I had deep inside and the “what ifs” attached to not sharing.
Basically, I felt I had more to gain than I did to lose by being vulnerable. Whatever the outcome I was being true to me, being true to my feelings, and my own integrity and that is NEVER a bad thing. Oh, and guess what? The outcome was not negative. Quite to the contrary, it was wonderful!! I gained in so many ways, more than I could have EVER imagined.
So here’s to coming out from behind the safety of the shadows and letting the truest, realest person shine through. Next time you are afraid to be a bit vulnerable, please ask yourself the following, “Do I have more to gain or more to lose by being me and sharing who I really am with the world?”
Peace, Love, and Light to all of you!!
P.S. In the spirit of being vulnerable I am asking for your help. It is my goal in the next two weeks to gain 100 subscribers to the Weekly Messages of YOUR Heart so together we can tune into our own hearts and really make a huge difference. If you or someone you know wants to dig a bit deeper, have a bit more fun each week, and learn something really cool about you, please consider subscribing. It is of no cost to you other than some time. Please help me to make my goal, and in turn help make this world a more loving and fun place for all. THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart!!
Sunday, March 09, 2008
I will never, not in one million years, profess that I have all the answers. I don’t and I am sure I would be safe in saying that most of us probably feel that way. I do know one thing; my heart has the answers that are right for me. I have found, especially over the last few years, that if I follow my heart I never go wrong. My heart holds all the cool stuff, all the great information just as long as I am willing to be present, listen, and take action.
So wouldn’t it be cool to get little reminders from your heart each week; little reminders that not only motivate and inspire, but support you in taking action? If you answered “yes”, please consider subscribing to Weekly Messages from Your Heart. (It will cost you absolutely nothing except a few minutes of your time each week to read and ponder the message.)
Your heart truly does know best. If you don't believe me, ask it a question and give a listen.
Saturday, March 01, 2008
As many of you know, I am all about removing tolerations; those things that begin to way you down, take up space, become mind clutter. Tolerations are a pain in the posterior, plain and simple…particularly computer related tolerations.
Since I have already written about how to remove tolerations I promise this post is not going to be a rehash. However, I would like to offer all of you a fantastic potential solution for your technical woes. Dear friend and fellow blogger, Phil Gerbyshak shares a great way for YOU to gain free technical support for the next few weeks. Check out what’s on offer – the time to remove your technical tolerations is certainly now!!
Sunday, February 17, 2008
Behind every dark happening, behind every difficulty, there is a hidden blessing. - White Eagle (courtesy of Your Spiritual Home).
Every situation and experience, good or bad has some positive take-away if we choose to look for it. Yep, I kid you not, it’s true. We have in front of us the opportunity to grow and learn even in the face of adversity. So my challenge to you is this; the next time you are faced with a negative situation ask yourself, “What’s one good thing I can take away from this experience?” The answer may be rather surprising.
Sunday, February 03, 2008
Just yesterday I received this awesome question in a newsletter that I subscribe to;
“What if we shifted our focus from achieving more to simply living more deeply?” - IONS
What does it mean to you to live more deeply? What would a life lived deeply look like?
I look forward to your thoughts. (To read my response to this question, please click here.)
Sunday, January 27, 2008
I guess I can quit with my really bad sports analogy now and just ask you to consider this; when was the last time you took a chance? When was the last time you threw caution to the wind and just went for it?
If your answer is, “I have no clue.” OR “Gosh, I don’t remember.” Don’t you think it is time you stepped outside your box before the cardboard starts to rot? (Many thanks to my friend, Phil for that wonderful analogy.) I DO! You owe it to yourself!
Before you walk away thinking, “OK, this chick is off her rocker, she doesn’t know me, she has no clue what I am up against.” You’re right, I don’t really know you and I don’t know what you are up against, but I do know that anything is possible and I mean ANYTHING if you are willing to take a chance.
So with that, I wish to offer you a few things to ponder…
1) You have much more to gain than you do to lose. Think about it, if you go after what you want and get it, you gained. If you go after what you want and don’t get it, you haven’t lost anything – you are right where you were when you started. Right?
2) Every experience, good or bad is an opportunity for growth and learning.
3) When you allow fear to stand in your way, you are just handing your power over to the fear. You and I both know it is no fun being powerless.
4) Create some awareness around what holds you back. In creating that awareness you have the capability to remove the obstacle or jump over it.
5) If you follow your heart, you can’t go wrong.
6) If you follow your heart, and someone thinks you are silly for it, that says more about them then it does about you. Oh, and remember it really is none of your business what others think of you. It is your business what you think of you.
7) Did I mention that you have more to gain than you do to lose? :::smile:::
8) Get out of the past. You have lived it once already, it’s time to focus on the present.
So what’s it gonna be; are you going to sit or are you gonna play?
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Sunday, January 13, 2008
Wanting abundance without an exchange of services, or love without loving, is a little bit like wanting an aquarium without fish, a leash without a dog, a frame without a picture... (Courtesy of Tut.com)
No truer words could be said or shared. I could say so much more, but what’s more important to me is what this quote says to you? Please don’t be shy.
(image from www.homewardbounddogrescue.com)